I am currently reading the book Brida by Paulo Coehlo and in more than one occassion the importance of the eyes have been put forward. In his book it explains that the eyes will reveal your soul mate. You see something in the other’s eyes.
While going through this blog I came across this post on eye contact and intimacy.
The article talks about how eye contact can help couples deepen their intimacy. It seems like such a simple and innocent act yet I know how difficult it is to do.
A few million years ago while I was still single and dating around…the men I went out with would always look away when I try to look at them. They would always say that I have such a piercing stare (what the hell does that mean?) and they get uncomfortable. It became a sort of sick game I would play…a sort of power trip I would play on all the guys who would ask me out.
In 2000, I went out with one guy who didn’t even flinch when I stared at him. I was surprised. I actually thought this one would be easy. Surprisingly, he stared right back. And he kept on staring, and staring…till I had to look away.
I married him 6 years after that.
The eye contact has stopped though. Probably cause this guy wants to sit beside me in restaurants instead of across me….it’s hard to look the person beside you in the eye, the ergonomics are just all wrong. It gets even harder when you have a toddler asking for your attention every other second. Then you have the further distraction of media and mobile phones. Eye contact is dying…and I’m not sure it has a fighting chance of surviving.
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