Wonderful List

1. What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what. 

2. You define your own life. Don’t let other people write your script.

3. Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.

4. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. (A lesson from Maya Angelou.)

5. Worrying is wasted time. Use the same energy for doing something about whatever worries you.

6. What you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.

7. If the only prayer you ever say is thank you, that will be enough. (From the German theologian and humanist Meister Eckhart.)

8. The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.

9. Failure is a signpost to turn you in another direction.

10. If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world will not fall apart.

11. Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn’t lie.

12. Love yourself and then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter.

13. Let passion drive your profession.

14. Find a way to get paid for doing what you love. Then every paycheck will be a bonus.

15. Love doesn’t hurt. It feels really good.

16. Every day brings a chance to start over.

17. Being a mother is the hardest job on earth. Women everywhere must declare it so.

18. Doubt means don’t. Don’t move. Don’t answer. Don’t rush forward.

19. When you don’t know what to do, get still. The answer will come.

20. “Trouble don’t last always.” (A line from a Negro spiritual, which calls to mind another favorite: This, too, shall pass.)

This was taken from Oprah’s website

With an Open Heart

“Whatever you are waiting for–peace of mind, contentment, grace, the inner awareness of Simple Abundance–it will surely come, but only when you are ready to receive it with an open and grateful heart.”– Sarah Ban Breathnach

Don’t Love Me

“If you aren’t true to yourself, you are not allowing someone to love the person you truly are.”

I have read more than one book talking about our habit of pushing love away. How many of our quirks turn out to be harmful to our relationships?  Lying about who we are is the most prevalent of these quirks and funnily enough, we rarely realize that we’re doing it.


“I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out.”

~Roy Croft

*Sigh* Isn’t this lovely?

The Eyes Have It

I am currently reading the book Brida by Paulo Coehlo and in more than one occassion the importance of the eyes have been put forward. In his book it explains that the eyes will reveal your soul mate.  You see something in the other’s eyes.

While going through this blog I came across this post on eye contact and intimacy

The article talks about how eye contact can help couples deepen their intimacy. It seems like such a simple and innocent act yet I know how difficult it is to do. 

A few million years ago while I was still single and dating around…the men I went out with would always look away when I try to look at them. They would always say that I have such a piercing stare (what the hell does that mean?) and they get uncomfortable.   It became a sort of sick game I would play…a sort of power trip I would play on all the guys who would ask me out.

In 2000, I went out with one guy who didn’t even flinch when I stared at him. I was surprised. I actually thought this one would be easy. Surprisingly, he stared right back. And he kept on staring, and staring…till I had to look away. 

I married him 6 years after that. 

The eye contact has stopped though.  Probably cause this guy wants to sit beside me in restaurants instead of across me….it’s hard to look the person beside you in the eye, the ergonomics are just all wrong. It gets even harder when you have a toddler asking for your attention every other second. Then you have the further distraction of media and mobile phones. Eye contact is dying…and I’m not sure it has a fighting chance of surviving.

Lazy in Love

Here’s another excerpt from my new favorite blog:

We have all done things that bring joy to our loved ones and yet, we often forget to do those very things. We get busy, we get comfortable, we get lazy.

I have been guilty of this and so has my partner. It’s just so darn easy to be complacent when things are okay. We are so used to doing things because we have to. We do things to appease the other’s anger…we do things because we were asked to…rarely do we do things just because the other person likes it. 

I don’t know if this just happens to me or if other people are guilty of it as well.

Defining my Life

“How we spend our days, is, of course, how we spend our lives.”

~Annie Dillard

What does this say about my life? I panic at the thought that my life will be defined as a life of constant web surfing, plurking and blogging. That’s not how I want to live. I really should decide what I want my legacy to be.